Oh to be sixteen again
I am reading some books by Leil Lowndes at the moment about communication and inter-relationship. A fascinating topic. Reading about love and how we fall in love with someone the author describes certain science projects who wanted to find out what love is. What do we expect from love? So what do I expect from love?
I am a 57 year old single male. Probably the worst person to be if it comes to starting a romantic relationship. When I was 16 I saw myself in the mirror as the young Adonis the girls must fall in love with. Now I see an old man, I see flabby skin, wrinkles and I am scared to cast my eyes further down. Lets not go there. I ask myself "Who are you kidding? Who would ever find THIS attractive?"
I meet a lot of women through my work and I see a lot of signals. But in my mind mid fifties women are to 99 percent in a relationship. This is what I believe in my mind. It is probably far removed from reality. But it controls my way of thinking. It goes like "What a gorgeous smile she has..... her husband must be a lucky guy .......". Back when I was 16 it was "what a gorgeous smile she has... I wonder if she has a boyfriend... I wonder if it is something serious ....maybe I will try and find out .... "
It is a fact we have to accept that romance and love has one purpose: breeding. That's natures idea of a romantic relationship. But should the absence of breeding capability force us to give up romance? Do we have to bury our teenage love cravings because we are too old to have babies? Should we all become grumpy old couples because there is no chance of replication? Isit nature's rule that at a certain age we will become a grumpy old couple? No kissing, smooching and cuddles on the couch because - hey what's the point? We can't have babies anyway? Stupid! Stuff you mother nature!
A romantic relationship is exactly that, romantic. Take romance away and what do you end up with? If I can't have love and romance like I had when I was 16 I'd rather live alone.
I am a 57 year old single male. Probably the worst person to be if it comes to starting a romantic relationship. When I was 16 I saw myself in the mirror as the young Adonis the girls must fall in love with. Now I see an old man, I see flabby skin, wrinkles and I am scared to cast my eyes further down. Lets not go there. I ask myself "Who are you kidding? Who would ever find THIS attractive?"
I meet a lot of women through my work and I see a lot of signals. But in my mind mid fifties women are to 99 percent in a relationship. This is what I believe in my mind. It is probably far removed from reality. But it controls my way of thinking. It goes like "What a gorgeous smile she has..... her husband must be a lucky guy ...
It is a fact we have to accept that romance and love has one purpose: breeding. That's natures idea of a romantic relationship. But should the absence of breeding capability force us to give up romance? Do we have to bury our teenage love cravings because we are too old to have babies? Should we all become grumpy old couples because there is no chance of replication? Isit nature's rule that at a certain age we will become a grumpy old couple? No kissing, smooching and cuddles on the couch because - hey what's the point? We can't have babies anyway? Stupid! Stuff you mother nature!
A romantic relationship is exactly that, romantic. Take romance away and what do you end up with? If I can't have love and romance like I had when I was 16 I'd rather live alone.
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